Jan 15 2008

Visitation after divorce

Published by at 7:46 am under Counseling & Psychotherapy,Divorce

Fighting about visitation can be a way parents express anger at the other parent and continue the battles that led to divorce.

The best strategy to help children heal and move on from a divorce is to reduce the conflict, make an agreement and move forward.
The most important point for parents to remember is that their children are attached to both of them…so any criticism of the other parent will be felt by the children themselves at a deeper level.

If a parent criticizes another parent, the children can possibily feel criticized themselves. Children may think, “If my father is lazy and irresponsible, then maybe I am or will be that way too…”

Divorce is a very challenging time, to say the least. If you are going through this right now, take time to breath deeply, step back, think of ways you can shift the fight from your marriage and what went wrong to how you will jointly care for your children and/or move your own personal life forward.

If you need help, there are many therapists and divorce mediators who can help you understand what is in the best interests of your children.

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