Archive for the 'Inspiration, Education & Personal Growth' Category

Jan 14 2011

Facebook Revolution: Truth to Power

We are truly living in a remarkable era.

Truth telling via internet media like Facebook, blogging, and  other ways to transmit words and images has brought revolutionary change to places like Egypt, Tunisia and now Libya, one of the most brutal dictatorships in the world.

Truth to power. May it bring us more peace, justice and democracy all over the world.

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Oct 12 2009


Practice makes perfect and helps train the brain…it all gets easier the more you do it.Turning down the volume of conversations will help too. We can hear each other pretty well, if we feel like raising our voices, it is likely a time for a time-out. Have a cup of tea, do some breathing, then come back later to the conversation.

When I do listening exercises in session with couples, it helpfsto reduce the levels of conflict and create a warmer space for them to be with each other. There is a little hope that things can get better at home.

At the end of the communication exercise, I ask couples to give each other feedback about what they liked about this new way of talking with each other.

Here are some of the things that couples say to each other:

“I liked the way you expressed your feelings so directly.”

“you listened carefully to what I was saying”

“I liked hearing you reflect back what I was saying to you”

“hearing my words reflected back gave me a chance to hear what I was saying…I could evaluate and clarify my words, so I could say what I really mean”

“when I was listening, I realized how much I would argue and try to win the debate, rather than really listen to what you were saying”

“I realized how much what I usually say is blaming…I am not really talking about what I think, feel and want…rather how much I try to make to blame for my unhappiness”

Using words connected to honest feelings is the only way to create an intimate relationship.

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May 16 2009

Psychotherapy Often Deals With Our Family History, But Does History Really Matter?

Now is now and then is then. I hear this often in my work with clients. I understand their concern and try to help them determine the relevancy of their family history to their current life situation. This is called “family of origin” work within the field of family therapy. What does this work look like?

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Apr 20 2009

Kate Winslet and the Movie, The Reader: The Critics View

Many of the major movie critics identified several flaws in the movie, The Reader.  The flaws included being hard to believe, reductionist (the death of millions of Jews to the issue of literacy), morally ambiguous, and character development lacking depth and sharpness.
Read them here.

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Dec 29 2008

Check out this site for tips on becoming a better listener

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Aug 06 2008

You may have seen this inspirational father-son video…it’s worth watching again

Check it out here.

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Jul 26 2008

What have you lost or been forced to give up lately?

I want to share an inspirational story with you related to girls, athletics, and what’s really important in life.

The story is about two female college softball teams

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Jul 01 2008

“Self esteem: A family affair”…A book highly recommended by Sandy Dellutri, Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Chicago

Interested in a book that can help you discover what you didn’t receive growing up in your family? My friend Sandy Dellutri, LCSW recommends Self-Esteem: A family affair. Here is what Sandy says about the book:

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Jul 01 2008

Escape, by Carolyn Jessop: An inside look at the oppression and abuse of women and children by a religious cult

I am nearly finished reading Escape, by Carolyn Jessop. It is her story of life inside the FLDS religious cult and her eventual escape. I am upset and confused…

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Jun 27 2008

“Life in a Jar”: the souls of 2,500 Jewish infants and children

Life in a Jar, was the play a group of young Kansas students wrote to honor Irena Sendlerowa for her humility and courage saving the lives of thousands of Jewish infants and children in the Warsaw ghetto during World War II.

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