Oct 10 2009

Slow Down and Listen To Each Other

Couples often are skeptical about their ability to slow down and listen to each other. They look at me with extreme doubt, as if to say, “really, who listens to their partner and then says, “…so what I hear you saying is….”

It’s true that such a slow, deliberate and careful way of speaking to each other seems unnatural. Part of the reason may be that couples don’t do this very much and so our brains are not used to communication style.

While pop psychology leads us to believe that men and women are so different, “men are from mars and women are from venus”, the truth is that men and women are more similar than different.

Men and women are both from earth!

All of us are born with the same essential capacity to listen, nurture, be intimate, and love. Our personal history, especially our family experience is what differentiates us.

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