Comments on: What happens in the beginning of couples therapy? http://www.counselinginchicago.com/2008/01/20/what-happens-in-the-beginning-of-couples-therapy/ Exploring counseling & psychotherapy, what works, and the research that supports it. Bill Martin, LCSW 312-409-0632 Bmartin222@aol.com Tue, 07 Feb 2012 22:31:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.5 by: Bill http://www.counselinginchicago.com/2008/01/20/what-happens-in-the-beginning-of-couples-therapy/#comment-69 Sat, 02 Feb 2008 16:00:58 +0000 http://www.counselinginchicago.com/2008/01/20/what-happens-in-the-beginning-of-couples-therapy/#comment-69 Tom, The most important thing I heard was that you and your fiance have worked through many issues in the past. You must have a strong relationship and dedication to each other to do this. The stress you are both experiencing right now may be a message that it's time to do some work to strengthen your relationship even more. Have you tried counseling before? If so, now may be a good time to do it again. If I were working with you, I would help you slow things down, remember the strengths of your relationship, why you are together in the first place, and then start to do some problem-solving. It sounds like you have the type of relationship where you have been there for each other, so maybe it's time to take it to the next level of support and caring. Tom,

The most important thing I heard was that you and your fiance have worked through many issues in the past. You must have a strong relationship and dedication to each other to do this.

The stress you are both experiencing right now may be a message that it’s time to do some work to strengthen your relationship even more.

Have you tried counseling before? If so, now may be a good time to do it again.

If I were working with you, I would help you slow things down, remember the strengths of your relationship, why you are together in the first place, and then start to do some problem-solving.
It sounds like you have the type of relationship where you have been there for each other, so maybe it’s time to take it to the next level of support and caring.

]]> by: Thomas Mosica http://www.counselinginchicago.com/2008/01/20/what-happens-in-the-beginning-of-couples-therapy/#comment-68 Fri, 01 Feb 2008 23:54:32 +0000 http://www.counselinginchicago.com/2008/01/20/what-happens-in-the-beginning-of-couples-therapy/#comment-68 me and my fiance have had our share of difficultiesin the past, we have overcome quite a lot together.she recently gave birth to our firstborn son. we were very happy and worked together very well during the pregnancy. after she had our boy things went south pretty quickly. l feel like she is not able to comunicate with me without being hostile and often times abusive. she is often irrational and moody. i know there is a lot going on hormonally right now and i realize this is not an easy time for any couple i just want to get to a place where we can talk to one another without fighting. we try to never fight in front of our boy. i desperately want to get our relationship back on track. please let me know if you what the next step would be on the road to getting the help we so desperately need. me and my fiance have had our share of difficultiesin the past, we have overcome quite a lot together.she recently gave birth to our firstborn son. we were very happy and worked together very well during the pregnancy. after she had our boy things went south pretty quickly. l feel like she is not able to comunicate with me without being hostile and often times abusive. she is often irrational and moody. i know there is a lot going on hormonally right now and i realize this is not an easy time for any couple i just want to get to a place where we can talk to one another without fighting. we try to never fight in front of our boy. i desperately want to get our relationship back on track. please let me know if you what the next step would be on the road to getting the help we so desperately need.

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